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Not Optional

There are many things that are optional. We have options of the people we will pursue or accept friendships and relationships with. There are options of where we will live, work, shop, go for entertainment, fellowship and so much more. However, there are some things that should not be optional. These things take determination and a made-up mind. We tend to treat some things as if they are optional, but hopefully after this read, you will determine they are NOT AN OPTION.

When is the last time you self-checked? Isn’t it interesting that we have immediate energy when it is an opportunity to check someone, besides ourselves? We can and will point out everything that needs to be corrected about them, everything they need to do different, what they should or should not do, I mean we have all of the answers for someone else. But, what about when it comes to self-check? Are we as quick to allow the mirror to stay before us long enough for us to see the things that need to be adjusted, so that we are our best selves? I have spent the last 2.5 years intentionally self-checking and I am here to share with you that it is not easy, but it is necessary. It is necessary because if it is not done, you will function at a low level. You will function in what only looks or feels a certain way, to you. You will not take into consideration how showing up in certain ways, may affect others. If something is said to you, about you concerning a certain area, I believe it is at least worth evaluating yourself. For instance, if several people share with you that you have a negative outlook on most things when communicating, you should evaluate why it is that it seems your communication is rarely if ever, positive. Self-checks also include being honest with yourself. Accept the things you know need work, and be willing to put in the work. We are human, and humans error in life. That is normal, but it is imperative that we correct what needs correction.

Are you progressing in life? Are you evolving and not remaining in the same place week after week, month after month and year after year?

Progression and evolution means we are learning, unlearning and making necessary adjustments, with forward movements into our greater self. It is important to better our lives wholly and position ourselves to be the example someone else needs. When we are willing to progress and evolve, it shows we are willing to let go of traditions and ideologies that may be all we know, yet understand it is preventing purpose prevailing. With no willingness to grow, there will not be many meaningful places we will go.

Have you sought and tapped into your purpose? Living life blindly, unintentionally and carelessly is not an option. If you are beyond your twenties, then you especially understand that life is swiftly moving and there is no time to waste. You must understand that you were created on purpose, with purpose, that you may be purposeful. No matter how difficult your life has been, you have an assignment in the earth that requires you knowing what that assignment is. You must know what is it that you are supposed to be giving to the earth? I realized many years ago, that whatever I was supposed to do in life, had to do with talking. I knew this because all throughout my life, I have enjoyed talking. In elementary and beyond, I got great grades, but always had a progress note and behavioral grades that indicated “Talks too much”. The things that you are great at, that you are not putting any real thought into, may be what you are to contribute to the world. Examine your life, the things you desire and enjoy. What are the things that light your soul on fire? Consider this, that thing may be the very thing that will produce for you in a way that will add to your life and others.

When is the last time you thought “How can I give”? Most people want to receive more than they are willing to give, but I have learned along my journey that being a giver will always produce for me. Not that I seek to receive because I give, but I know that it is a law of attraction. It is a principle of sowing and reaping, a gift and law of reciprocity. It is a mere truth that if we give, we will receive. I also realized years ago, that I may not receive exactly how I give, but I will definitely receive in the way I need, at the time I need. Therefore, I have lived my adult life looking for ways to give. I give of myself, my time, gifts of all kinds, and any other way as led by my spirit, ultimately the Holy Spirit. Don’t quench those feelings that are nudging you to give. This is what we were created to do. Imagine if we all gave as led, if we moved each time we have the nudge. It is my belief that if we were sensitive to giving, there would be no unmet needs in the earth. That is absolutely amazing to think about. Therefore, let us be the ones that are sensitive to the still small voice, and give! When I think about purpose, it reminds me that I am giving. My purpose in the earth, fulfilled will bless me and others in so many ways, and so will yours. Just yield to the spirit of GIVING and watch how amazing life will be for you.

Your willingness to self-check is not optional. Your Progression and Evolution are not optional. Seeking and fulfilling purpose, is not optional and your giving is not optional. All of these must happen in order for you to effectively BE, who it is you were created. I just believe you want to fulfill life’s assignment, so that after you are gone, you would have left something in the earth. Legacy goes beyond money and property! What will the world receive and remember of you? That is true Legacy.

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